Marriage #34
34. (19) Conjugial love depends upon the wife's love, and such too is the husband's love reciprocally; the wife's love does not depend on her husband's love. The reason is that just as the will acts on the understanding, good acts on truth; that is why it is said that a man ought to cleave to his wife. The reverse is true of those who are not in conjugial love.
Arcana Coelestia #3414
3414. 'And Abimelech said to Isaac' means the Lord's perception regarding that doctrine. This is clear from the meaning of 'saying' as perceiving, often dealt with already; from the representation of 'Abimelech', here the king of the Philistines, as that doctrine, dealt with in 3365, 3391; and from the representation of 'Isaac' as the Lord's Divine Rational.