Marriage #34
34. (19) Conjugial love depends upon the wife's love, and such too is the husband's love reciprocally; the wife's love does not depend on her husband's love. The reason is that just as the will acts on the understanding, good acts on truth; that is why it is said that a man ought to cleave to his wife. The reverse is true of those who are not in conjugial love.
Deuteronomy 29:12-15
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that you may enter into the covenant of Yahweh your God, and into his oath, which Yahweh your God makes with you this day;
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that he may establish you this day to himself for a people, and that he may be to you a God, as he spoke to you, and as he swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob.
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Neither with you only do I make this covenant and this oath,
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but with him who stands here with us this day before Yahweh our God, and also with him who is not here with us this day
