Marriage #34
34. (19) Conjugial love depends upon the wife's love, and such too is the husband's love reciprocally; the wife's love does not depend on her husband's love. The reason is that just as the will acts on the understanding, good acts on truth; that is why it is said that a man ought to cleave to his wife. The reverse is true of those who are not in conjugial love.
Arcana Coelestia #10714
10714. EXODUS CHAPTER 35.
TEACHINGS ABOUT CHARITY AND FAITH
There are two realities which constitute a person's life - love and faith. Love constitutes the life of a person's will, and faith the life of his understanding; consequently what a person's love and faith are like determine what his life is like.