The Lord’s "own" are those who have His Word and know him, the heart and center of His contact with humanity. This has existed in various forms since the dawn of humanity, but at the time the Lord was born as Jesus it meant the Jews, who worshiped the Lord as Jehovah and had His truth in the form of the laws of Moses, the history of their own nation and the psalms and prophets. But the Jews of the time had turned away from the Lord, practicing ritual but looking only to their own selfish ends. In fact, the evil there had grown so dire that humanity was in danger of being cut off from the Lord altogether; if He had not come as Jesus we would have been destroyed altogether.

(Referenties: Arcana Coelestia 2531 [4], 8768; Teachings about the Lord 18 [5]; The Apocalypse Explained 745 [4])

50. The state of married couples after death

Virtually everyone who was married in the world either meets his wife after death, if she died first, or waits for her. When they meet, they investigate each other to find what their affection for each other had been; if there had been no mutual affection, they depart of their own accord, for two dissimilar affections and thoughts cannot be brought together, since all affections and consequently thoughts are communicated. If there is not agreement, great discomfort follows, and breathing becomes painful, and a kind of discordant panting, to such an extent that they are forced to separate; and they then associate with others according to their likeness.